Please check the about and the questions page for more information about this site and about what this site, the terms on it, and the experiences it describes are and are not.
Therefore, I find it wise to issue a few disclaimers about what is on this site or what I am and am not doing with it before anyone proceeds very far with it.
While this is mostly a site about a phenomenon that encompasses plural abuse, it is about abuse that can be accomplished through just about any means and that very often involves the methodical abuse of children, albeit not always.
This site also frequently discusses concepts of online abuse. While that is not the only or necessarily primary place where some of the concepts discussed on this site occur, it is definitely an overlooked avenue in terms of discussion of abuse. As a result, those with adverse experiences online may want to brace themselves while looking at this site.
Because this is a site about abuse, the pages on this site also reference other types of abuse that are not necessarily the focus of this site. For example, talking about how child abuse is a part of shaping. However, it also does things like mentioning other forms of abuse to explain how shaping or some forms of plural abuse are or aren't similar. For example, comparing different extents of abuse to different levels of sexual assault.
The terms used in this site are intended to add to a discussion about the different ways that people can be abused relative to their systems, as well as provide alternative language for certain terms that may exist already but where some people don't necessarily want to use all the terms available to them.
In particular, they are intended to be used by survivors to give language to experiences they have but may not have had language for before. Even if someone with certain adverse experiences did want to use all available terminology, some experiences do not really have accurate terminology for them yet. Some people say "if you think you have experiences in common with something, you can call yourself that thing", but that doesn't apply to everything. That includes certain forms of abuse.
However, certain things are undeniably abuse - such as manipulating somebody's system with the end goal of causing them to split alters you want them to split (which is a form of grooming) - and while language like "grooming" does exist, some people might also want more specific terms that emphasize the involvement of their system.
Therefore, this site offers language like "plural abuse" and "shaping" as either filling in certain lexical gaps and/or providing alternative language to people who may be dissatisfied with currently-existing language for any reason.
Additionally, this site contains some information about mental health and plurality, explained from the perspective of someone who has lived with them a long time who is explaining them for the benefit of someone trying to recover from them and/or use them to their advantage but doesn't understand the concepts very well yet. While I am not an expert on anything, I am someone who is good at explaining things and has a lot of lived experience. A lot of my friends and people in servers appreciate my mental health advice and my ability to explain complex concepts, so this site partly exists to help with that, and because someone who struggles with recently realizing they've experienced shaping might also struggle with general things like being triggered or understanding amnesia, this site might help with that.
I'm not trying to say that the terms "programming" or "programmed system" are bad, fake, inferior, or anything like that. I am saying that, sometimes, they don't apply, and other times, you might not want to use them.
While this site is explicitly created to be friendly to systems of all origin types, this site is not intended to imply that terms like "programming" are considered to be traumagenic-exclusive, nor that people who use those terms are inherently unfriendly to non-traumagenic systems. However, there are people who try to claim that programming is a traumagenic-exclusive experience, and while it's good to clear up that misinformation, it's also good to have a term that never had that misinformation associated with it.
This site is not intended to be associated with anybody's identity or anything. That is, I'd rather be anonymous. It's not that I'm scandalized by these concepts or being associated with them, but I also just don't want to make a big deal about them. Not wanting to make a big deal about certain things is a part of why I want to use terms other than "programmed" for my experiences, anyway; I want to use words that don't sound as big, like "shaped" or "plural abuse".
This site isn't an ARG, a work of unfiction, or part of a larger project. I'm genuinely talking about some experiences that I have anecdotally experienced and observed as things that can happen to plurals - both myself and those I've known - and I am making a site that describes certain experiences using language that is broad but specific and thus seems beneficial to survivors of abuse.
If you want to make a flag for these terms, go ahead. I would prefer you not be very loud about making a flag for these terms if you are heavily involved in discourse, but it would be antithetical to my goals to stop anyone from making flags for them.
I don't especially want anyone to become the "face" of the term "forcigenic" or anything, but if you make a flag for it and become sort of a figure to the community because of it, I don't mind that. Given that I have control over what goes on this site, not you, I'd rather you dealt with that burden than me.
I don't especially care who uses these terms. I don't really like discourse, but I also don't like stopping people from using language that helps them just because they believe things that are different from me.
I would prefer you used these terms in a way where you're describing experiences you actually feel happened to you, rather than things you wish had happened to you or that you wish could happen to you. I also don't want people to use words like "shaping" to describe things they think should actually happen, as these terms are meant to describe a form of abuse.
However, I also consider "experiences you actually feel happened to you" to include things you're not sure of but think could have happened, things that happened in your timeline/past life, or things that happened in the innerworld of your system, especially if you talk about these things with context or disclaimers that makes it clear you're not talking about outerworld experiences.
With regards to discourse, though, the few things I think are important to state:
I am in favor of systems of all origins, including endogenic and willogenic. I want it to be clear that the language used in this site is intended to be available to all plurals, or really anyone who feels it applies to them.
I believe the things I am describing in this website are forms of abuse. They are not consensual, and if something like them happened consensually, the terms this site is coining would not apply to what happened, just like how some things are like programming but aren't exactly that. While language for those experiences could be helpful, it is also outside the scope of this site.
While this site describes things that would be considered abuse, including terms that can be used to label people as abusers, I don't think that labeling people as abusers is always productive if done retaliatively, emotionally, loudly, publicly, and/or for any reason other than to protect people from someone who is currently actively a danger. That is to say, please do not use these terms to create unnecessary public allegations against people, especially ones that aren't true or where you care more about damaging someone's reputation than healing.
While I do consider people dangerous if they do the things this site describes, I believe those people are capable of reforming themselves, although they should be viewed as people who have done something wrong, as opposed to "just people" - that is, they are someone who does need to reform themself. I also believe that abusers should be allowed to put their past behind them if they do reform themselves, but if they do, then it's only fair that they place certain restrictions on themselves (e.g. intentionally avoiding heavily socializing with some communities that they may not be part of and that they have victimized in the past, keeping a respectful distance instead).
However, this site is about heavy abuse, including abuse that is sometimes sexual. Furthermore, because this site discusses concepts like consent and different types of abuse, it does sometimes mention things like sex, kink, rape, or CNC for purposes of comparison, demonstration, or explanation.
Therefore, this site does not have a warning on it that it is inherently unsafe for minors. However, minors should proceed with caution and with awareness of what they're getting into. That goes for everyone, but doubly so for those who are not adults yet and who would not have adult legal protections if something bad happened with them as a result of seeing any of this information.
Where it comes to what minors do with this information, I'm not sure I can necessarily say, as these aren't just labels I coined for fun but descriptions of what I feel are types of abuse that have existed for about as long as systems have.
What I will say is that, if you are a minor, I would urge you to consider the fact that you do not have adult legal protections now and cannot do certain things to keep yourself safe now, but that you will become an adult someday. That means that, if you wait until you are an adult to publicly identify with certain terms, you are not waiting until some mysterious unknown time when your life becomes perfect or anything like that, but rather a date in the future that can be calculated.
I would also caution minors to consider their legal safety in everything, with regards to basically anything they see or do online. Minors don't have all the legal rights or protections that adults do, even if they are protected in other respects, and this is one of the reason that some things that are considered inherely profoundly dangerous for minors is more okay to tell adults they can do if they feel prepared for it.
However, someone who is not ready to process certain information who is exposed to that information may experience certain adverse effects. There might also be dangers associated with publicly using certain terms, especially online.
If you are someone who feels that the experiences described on this site apply to you, you may experience a state of being triggered in some way. You may also feel triggered as a natural consequence of thinking intensely about abuse for a long time.
If looking at this site:
* makes you dissociate
* gives you headaches
* causes you to suddenly become confused
* is weirdly difficult to parse or remember compared to other information
* causes you to suddenly become anxious
* makes you feel weird, hollow, numb, upset, guilty, etc. after looking at it
It is most likely that this site triggers you.
That does not necessarily mean you should not look at the site, and it also doesn't necessarily mean that any form of shaping happened to you. (For example, it could have happened to someone you knew, or you could have experienced another form of plural abuse, or you could just find abuse triggering in general.) However, it does mean you should know your limits and proceed with caution.
Some people say it would be very dangerous to publicly identify as something like forcigenic or talk about being forcishaped. I think it depends. Where it comes to trauma, people with trauma shouldn't have to hide that fact about themselves away and never discuss it at all. But nor is it wise for them to be completely open about all of it all the time.
Therefore, people who have been shaped or experienced the things described on this site are encouraged to think about it before loudly talking about their experiences online. How long and deeply that means can differ depending on the person. But they are encouraged to take their individual situations and their individual abusers into account (especially when compared to other people, including other abusers) and understand that disclosing abuse is always risky, no matter what, but it can be worth it, and every situation is different.
This site is not intended to scare anybody or make them feel that they have gone through intense abuse. It is meant to do the opposite. I mean to emphasize that the things this site is about are not considered (inherently) extreme, intense, extensive, or out of the ordinary, even if they can create systems that might seem that way to others.
Things like programming may be partly uncommon (even if more common than you'd think), but programming is just an extreme version of certain ways you can abuse a system and could be seen as a form of grooming, in that you're abusing someone to reach a certain end goal. Grooming is bad, but it's not always "extreme", per se.
In that way, the concepts described by this site should be understood as things that are bad, but not necessarily extreme, atypical, or more triggering than a site focused on abuse would inherently be.